There is no way around dealing with life events. Some are easy to process, others are difficult, and some are traumatic. No matter what the event, we use learned coping skills to be able to move forward. There are many people, especially men, who have decided that “Toughing it Out” is their way of coping, rather than “Talking it Out”. But, what are the consequences?
An article by Dr. Jonier, describes how depression is a real worry when “Toughing it Out”, and the results can lead to decreased physical health, increased aggression, and intense irritability. All can damage the relationships with kids, a spouse, friends, and co-workers. Dr. Muller wrote that “Toughing it Out” individuals dealing with trauma, such as PTSD, often revert to drugs, alcohol, or suicide. In fact, The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention states that each year over 40,000 Americans die through suicide, and 70% are middle aged white men.
The isolation and loneliness that comes from “Toughing it Out” not only can decrease happiness and ruin relationships, but can also be lethal.
Take charge of your life,
Improve your relationships,
Decrease your emotional pain…
Seek help & “Talking it Out”