Growing up, I noticed that people in my community would watch the relatives of the deceased, noticing if they did or did not cry; and passed judgment on that behavior. For example, if a widow did not cry while her husband was eulogized and laid to rest, people would quietly whisper to each other “She is being very strong”.
WHY? Why do we do this to ourselves?
How is it that during a funeral service, a congregation sits and judges rather than hugs and supports? How is it that a person is not able to display genuine and raw emotions in what could be argued as one of the most difficult day in a person’s life? Why does our society think running away from our emotions is strong and brave?
I argue that embracing your feelings is strong. I argue that tackling difficult life events head on only increases long-term happiness. I argue that you are brave for wanting to be vulnerable. I argue that the relationship with yourself and others will be infinitely better by seeking help.
Who is a safe person in your life? Who can you call? Who will listen to your story? If no one comes to mind, please call a professional counselor; it could save your life.
In order to live Happier, Healthier, and Longer, let’s start to process difficult life events, support each other through trauma, and congratulate someone for going to therapy. After all, they are the strongest among us.