Sunday, January 16, 2011

Compliments

Giving compliments is standard practice at Learning on the Log.  Many kids take these comments in stride, others get a boost of self-confidence, while some become uncomfortable with the attention.

One kid simply agrees with the compliments given to him.  The other day he was riding a bike, and we complimented him on how great he was doing.  While continuing to ride, he looked back with a big smile and said,

“Yes I am, I know I am!”

Monday, January 3, 2011

SUMMER CAMP 2011

It is time to prepare for Summer Camp 2011.  Here is a visual recap of some of what happened last year.



Let us know what you think about the video or last years experience.

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Holiday and Winter Crafts


Have a wonderful Holiday and a great New Year!!!
Below are some fun Holiday Season crafts for the whole family.  For more more information and ideas please refer to the the website below.
 10 Holiday Crafts for Kids 
(copied from http://tipjunkie.com)



 FIVE FINGER SNOW ORNAMENT

GINGERBREAD COOKIE COTTAGE 

SNOWMAN GIFT BOXES

REINDEER ICE WREATH

HOLIDAY CRAYONS

MELTED SNOWMAN COOKIES

HANDMADE ORNAMENTS
 
SHAVING CREAM SNOWMAN

DIY PRINTABLE NATIVITY

THUMBPRINT TREE HOLIDAY CARDS

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Birthday Party Lesson


How Today's Birthday Parties Are Teaching Our Kids the Wrong Lessons 
By Dana Glazer, Huffington Post
<http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dana-h-glazer/what-are-our-kids-learnin_b_788597.html>
 
Recently, at my younger son's fourth birthday celebration, something a little distressing happened. As we were all singing "Happy Birthday" to him, his seven-year-old brother loudly inserted his own name at the end of the song. It was one of those moments that can really make a parent cringe. When asked why he did this, all that my elder son could utter was that he got "confused."  Later, when it came time for my younger son to open his gifts, our seven-year-old couldn't understand why there weren't any presents for him.

Was my son's confusion about birthdays and presents really his fault? I've been reflecting on this question ever since, and it's made me think about how my family and my generation of parents handle our kids' birthday parties and the presents that are such a big part of the experience.

When I was growing up, my birthday parties were held at my family's home, as were most of the birthday parties I attended back then. My parents would deck the basement with streamers, balloons, party hats and themed paper cups and plates. My mom always decorated the cake herself, and I can't tell you how excited I was every year to discover her newest creation: a fire engine, a policeman, a marshmallow alien space ship...

If the weather was permitting, there would be some games in the backyard, like pin-the-tail-on-the-donkey or freeze tag, and my dad would run those. At the end of the party, everyone would gather around, and I would open my presents in front of all the other kids. Likewise, when it came to other kids' parties, I would sit and watch the birthday boy or girl open up his or her gifts.

What made those parties meaningful was that my mom would usually take me shopping to buy a friend or classmate's gift, and there was something exciting about watching them open up what I had hand-picked for them. Perhaps it's just a failure of memory, but I can't ever recall a receipt being included with the gift. I also can't remember receiving a gift on my sister's birthday or anyone else's so that I wouldn't feel bad. It was her day, and that was it.

Now, birthday parties are more typically outsourced to kids' facilities like Gymboree, Chuck E. Cheese's, Bounce-U and The Little Gym. Cakes are supplied and decorated by Carvel, A&P and Shop Rite. It is expected that gifts are of a certain price range (in our area, usually $25 to $40) and that a receipt should be included for an easy exchange from where it was bought. No longer do children get to watch the birthday boy or girl open the gift from to them. This is partly due to time restrictions at these birthday facilities and also because parents don't want their kids enviously watching another child's bounty of toys. As a result, presents are usually stuffed into large garbage bags and dragged home, where they are opened with just one's immediate family around. A written thank-you note from the parents is usually the only acknowledgment of the gift.

It's easy to fall into this way of handling birthdays and presents. Life is certainly more hectic than it's ever been before, and I have to admit that it's a real temptation to just plunk down a few bucks to reserve birthday time at one of these facilitiesm especially when so often our kids would prefer to have their birthdays there anyway; and it's easier to order a present from Amazon.com or call our local toy store and ask them to preselect a generic present for a boy or girl and have it gift-wrapped (my wife and I have been guilty of this). Gone are the days of using the Sunday funnies to wrap a gift by oneself.

The problem is that by making these easier choices, we are in essence robbing our children (and ourselves) of the real value of birthdays and gift-giving: the recognition that it is an expression of how much we care about the people close to us. How do we care? We bake a homemade cake or take the time to hand-pick a present or make a birthday card from scratch or anything else that speaks of our desire to want to make someone feel special. Otherwise, birthday parties are just relegated to easily concocted, diversionary activities for our kids to pass the time, to stroke their little egos and to collect more unnecessary stuff.

The lesson learned for this parent is to take a little more time and a little more care when it comes to birthday celebrations and gift-giving. Then, maybe next year, for our younger son's birthday, our elder son will be a little less confused. That's my hope, anyway.

Dana H. Glazer is the award-winning director of the feature documentary, "The Evolution of Dad." To learn more about the project, please visit www.evolutionofdad.com <http://www.evolutionofdad.com/>

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Childhood Obesity in America

This is one of Katie's papers form the time she was earning her Master degree in Social Psychology


Childhood obesity in this country is an epidemic, and one that needs to be stopped. If not, then a whole generation of children may be outlived by their parents (Woody, 1986). This epidemic has social, emotional, and physical consequences; instead of attempting to alter the behavior to produce long term solutions, we seem to be searching only for instant gratification (Golan & Wizeman, 2001). Children who are obese suffer socially and emotionally due to other children making fun of them, not being able to participate or “keep up” in activities that require physical exertion, and even adults judging them and assuming they are lazy (Bowen, 1987). These children begin to have negative thoughts about themselves due to these judgments and not understand why (Woody, 1986).

Obesity is typically a result of not one variable, but a combination of a high caloric dietary intake and low energy expenditure; and with only 38.5% of our children in America meeting the present national standards for physical activity and healthy eating habits, it is no wonder we are seeing an obesity epidemic in America (Golan & Wizeman, 2001). This combination of high caloric intake and low energy output can begin a negative psychological cycle of: gaining weight, receiving ridicule for one’s outward appearance and inability to perform physically, utilization of overeating and sedentary behavior as an unhealthy coping mechanism, which then continues as an unhealthy behavior cycle (Crocker, Cornwell, & Major, 1993).

In the past, childhood obesity has been viewed as a genetic disorder (if the parents are overweight, chances are the kids will be too); and attributed to the rise in playing video games, children are no longer playing outdoors and getting exercise naturally like they used to; and many schools in America have cut PE from their curriculum, taking away another form of exercise in the midst of a mentally straining, but otherwise sedentary school day (Graves, Meyers, & Clark, 1988). In addition to not receiving the physical aspect of PE in school, they are also losing out on the health and nutrition concepts they would have otherwise been taught. Many extracurricular sports activities are also being cut due to lack of funding, which is another aspect of physical activity that children are missing out on.  

Parents attitudes and behaviors may also stem from not being educated themselves, they are hard working and tired, so when they come home from working possibly two jobs the last thing they want to do is fight with their children about eating healthy or to stop playing video games, because they too want to just sit down and rest while snacking on unhealthy foods and watching television (Campbell, Crawford, & Ball, 2006). Mass media is another indicator of our country’s attitude towards this epidemic, focusing on finding excuses for why our kids are obese, offering “silver bullets” to remedy this epidemic without having to work for it (metabolic pills, to lose weight without exercise), and the push of hundreds of video games and systems that are encouraging the children to participate in sedentary activity for hours on end (Keith et al., 2006).

In order to change these unhealthy behaviors, there needs to be an overall education system in place to ensure everyone understands why these changes need to happen and how they can make these changes efficiently (Golan & Wizeman, 2001). Families and schools need to be reminded that physical activity is fun and can involve everyone participating together. Not only will their bodies be receiving the proper nutrition it needs, but increased activity will build muscle and burn fat; they will also experience an increase in their energy levels and typically their moods and interactions with others are more positive (Golan & Wizeman, 2001). In the schools, when healthier lunches are served in the cafeteria, the teachers will see better productivity and more energy and endurance with their students (Hillman, Erickson, & Kramer, 2008).

To get this started, the government should take an initiative by returning PE funding to the schools as a requirement in the curriculum, offer additional funding for healthy food habits (not have healthy food choices in the grocery store as the most expensive items) and incorporate healthy food into school cafeterias. The media needs to take a larger role in promoting the positive aspects (to make this public agenda) of this healthy lifestyle change, and individual states/cities/counties need to follow through by offering community involvement in physical activities and healthy awareness; being creative in how to make these acts enjoyable for the whole family together.

While there have been many studies in the past regarding this topic, they have not proven themselves as worthwhile strategies for long term solutions; the behavioral and or medication studies usually result in short term weight loss, but invariably the children gain the weight back (Epstein et al., 1990). Some of these studies discuss metabolic supplements specifically for childhood weight loss, surgical solutions, and drastic diets cutting out all carbohydrates and/or fat (Canavera, Sharma, & Murnan, 2008). Psychologists would be useful in this proposed action by providing counseling to these children to help motivate their initial weight loss, help rebuild their self esteem, and help them to learn healthier coping skills for dealing with everyday problems. This counseling should also be government funded and a part of the school system to ensure every child is receiving the support they need, regardless of economic status.

The potential positive outcomes of this proposal include the actual weight loss and a direct correlation to increased health of the children. There is also the added benefit of counseling for the children which will help them deal with their initial feelings of low self-esteem/self-worth typically seen with children who suffer from obesity. Once they begin to lose the weight, they will continue to receive support and counseling that will allow them to express any feelings they may be having regarding their current situation, any fears they may be experiencing which will in turn contribute positively to a healthier holistic lifestyle.

Friday, November 12, 2010

Really?

To further make our last weeks point, here is a cell phone commercial that exaggerates the truth.  Like with many jokes or teases, there is some truth within.

Enjoy.

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Living in the Moment


A question I have been pondering lately: is all this instant technology a good thing?

I know I know, we all benefit from many wonderful additions of technology to our lives, but when does it become too much? In several different social situations lately, I have been sitting amongst a group of people, some at work, some friends, some observations in restaurants, etc. where people are more focused on their phones, email, twitter, video games, or facebook than they are on the people they are with; they are no longer living in the moment. The problem this presents is great: we begin to lose the personal connections we have with people, we assume false intimacy with others, and we eventually begin to experience more through technology than we do with real life relationships and events.

Several examples:
One, I was sitting within a group of about 20 people, some new friends and some old, and at any given time I look around and rather than actually enjoying the people they are with, 12 out of those 20 people are checking facebook status’ of others or updating their own about what a fun time they are having at the tailgate: loss of personal connections with people

Two, I was at a small get together last week where a guy was attempting to talk to a girl in the group and instead of asking her real questions to try and get to know her, he brought up things he had previously seen on her facebook page and attempted to use this information to his advantage: assuming false intimacy with others

Three, at work last week, there were several guys who are friends and “hang out” together outside of school sitting together eating lunch; instead of discussing real life interactions they have experienced, they instantly launch into a video game dialog and talk through that: experiencing more through technology than through real life

Four, at the park on a beautiful fall afternoon, enjoying some free from stress moments with friends; people feel compelled to check their text messages or emails on their phones rather than relish the quiet, enjoy their surroundings, and they tend to rush things or lose the moment all together: not living in the moment

One of my favorite movies “You’ve Got Mail” describes a similar phenomenon in the main character’s life when she realizes the same thing with regards to experiencing things through reading books rather than experiencing them herself in real life: “Kathleen Kelly: Sometimes I wonder about my life. I lead a small life. Well, not small, but valuable. And sometimes I wonder do I do it because I like it, or because I haven't been brave? So much of what I see reminds me of something I read in a book, when shouldn't it be the other way around? ”

So I ask you the same question: rather than always checking our “friends” facebook status; or twitter accounts, rather than constantly checking our email and talking on the phone or playing a video game, shouldn’t we be enjoying the people we are with? Investing time in developing real intimacy and engaging in relationships with those who are with us in person...right now?