Growing up, I
noticed that people in my community would watch the relatives of the deceased,
noticing if they did or did not cry; and passed judgment on that behavior. For example, if a widow did not cry
while her husband was eulogized and laid to rest, people would quietly whisper
to each other “She is being very strong”.
WHY? Why do we do this to ourselves?
How is it that during
a funeral service, a congregation sits and judges rather than hugs and
supports? How is it that a person is not
able to display genuine and raw emotions in what could be argued as one of the
most difficult day in a person’s life?
Why does our society think running away from our emotions is strong and
brave?
I argue that
embracing your feelings is strong. I
argue that tackling difficult life events head on only increases long-term
happiness. I argue that you are brave
for wanting to be vulnerable. I argue
that the relationship with yourself and others will be infinitely better by
seeking help.
Who is a safe
person in your life? Who can you
call? Who will listen to your
story? If no one comes to mind, please
call a professional counselor; it could save your life.
In order to live
Happier, Healthier, and Longer, let’s start to process difficult life events,
support each other through trauma, and congratulate someone for going to
therapy. After all, they are the
strongest among us.
#TalkItOut
